And then later on down the road I could be more "real" with her.I even tried being more like a "player" to jack up women's attraction for me.Well, that actually backfired on me, too, because even though I got them more interested in me at the start, I started having less success getting another date with them.
You learn how they work, and then you get rid of them because they are just training wheels to get you riding the bike yourself. How to get women interested in you and build deep rapport with them by just , or use other people's words.
Long after all the clever pickup lines and approaches have been exposed, You can't get caught using one of these "techniques" if you're always being YOU. No matter how many techniques you learn, you will always end up back here with me working on your inner game.
No technique in the world create this strength of foundation you'll get from complete self-confidence.
I'd talk to women about my hobbies and what I thought was interesting, but I never seemed to get anywhere.
When I was on a date, I'd ask a bunch of questions - because I'm supposed to show interest in her in some way.
After a while I started being a little "flexible" with the truth.
I found myself purposefully hiding certain facts and even exaggerating things about me to impress her, because I figured she would find me more attractive up front.
My game was actually WORSE when I was using pickup techniques than when I was just being "myself." I've heard from a lot of guys that picked up a copy of the book "The Game" telling me that none of the lines and openers they got from it work anymore because ALL the guys are using these techniques. These routines and techniques that guys teach on TV reality shows are just to give you of the type of things that women find interesting, and the word-for-word routines are not meant to be parroted to every woman you see. You can learn to play a Led Zeppelin tune or two if you want, and you'll sound like Jimmy Page. And that's how using routines and lines can actually cripple your success with women, because you are undermining your belief and confidence in yourself by using borrowed words.
Again, the biggest mistake we make as men is assuming that because what you're doing isn't working, that means that it's YOU that's at fault.